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[Curt]

Mariner, did you seriously just quote Popeye? Oh good grief...

Umm....I guess I did...DOH . Showing my age again. Besides who else would know his Nephews names?

[Karried]

LOL - you crack me up ... Remember SweetDaisy, this was over 20 years ago - Gosh I'm old.

[Curt]

LOL - you crack me up ... Remember SweetDaisy, this was over 20 years ago - Gosh I'm old.

Well if your talking about me, and if you saw me in person you'd really pee your pants from laughing so hard, cuz I am pretty funny looking.....and now for my next number :boff:

[Jay]

I agree whole-heartedly... do I do that, though? Nope, not very often! Blah!

I think you may have missed my point. In my opinion you should never ask for a relationship unless you are proposing marrige. A relationship should just happen without either person saying "Hey lets be a couple."

I was not saying you were acting desperate and I think that is the way you took my advice.


Karried..... thanks but, not thanks to your idea. I would say why but, I think I will be nice for a change.

[osupa05]

Oh, but I am somewhat desperate.. in a sense, at least! Things had been going naturally and great, for that matter, but all the while he was telling that he didn't have time for a relationship.. but then he would kiss me (which I know that a lot of times guys don't attach the same sentiment to kisses as girls). None the less, I wanted more... I honestly got to hang out with him a few times and then pretty much nothing after that... he's always busy doing something. I don't fault him for being busy, it just makes me really upset that he says he wants to spend time with, but then never makes that time! I understand where he's coming from about not having time (I just got done with the hardest two and half years of my life), but I also know that if I want something bad enough, I will make time for it... he won't make that time for me. And, there's nothing for me to do. It's his choice! But sometimes I will text him and ask him if he wants to go do something.. and I know I should just let him be the one to iniate us doing something. I would love to be his friend, but he doesn't even have time for that right now! Yet, he's still telling me that he wants to see me! It's driving me nut-so and when I'm nuts, sometimes I do desperate things! Haha.. ok, that's my relationship life in a big nutshell.. bet you didn't know I was gonna unleash like that...! I still think that you've got an awesome outlook on relationships, Jay!

[Karried]

Karried..... thanks but, not thanks to your idea. I would say why but, I think I will be nice for a change.

You are always nice - but are you saying no to a Single's Cruise? Or something else - like alcohol?

Yeah, a singles' cruise might not be for everyone but I think it would be great fun to go to something like this with other singles ( not alone) - not neccessarily to hook up with these same people but to meet new people and do fun things on the ship. And after the day's festivities, you all could meet up with each other for dinner or dancing or whatever... If I were single, I would be signing up to go - cruises are so fun - single or not.

[Jay]

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Happy New Year

[Jay]

I still think that you've got an awesome outlook on relationships, Jay!

Thanks for the complement.

Based on what you posted I would not hold out and wait on him to finally come around.

If I were you, I would move on to finding someone new.

Then again, I am not you. I do not know how much emotional attachment is there and I do not know what other issues are involved.

Whatever you decide to do about this situation I hope it all works out for you.

Just do not wait forever for this guy. You have a lot to offer. Do not waste it on someone who plays games with you.

[osupa05]

Thanks! I'm obviously more emotionally invested than he is.. but then again, I'm female.. and sometimes we emotions get the best of us (blah!). I won't wait around on this guy! If he finally decides that he wants to spend time with me, then I hope it's not to late for him... who knows I may have met a great guy who will spend time with me by then! haha! I guess it's just been a while since I have liked someone who's seemingly as great as I seem to think he is... but there are tons of really great guys! I guess you just have to kiss a lot of frogs?? who knows!

[gbyte]

osupa,

Try to get over him a bit and sometimes when you stop contacting him it will perhaps spark his interest if he really is interested. If not you seem to be a fun and nice individual and I'm sure you will somehow bump into someone that will be good for you

[Jay]

Do you girls ever get warts doing that? (Kissing Frogs)

[sweetdaisy]

Do you girls ever get warts doing that? (Kissing Frogs)

No warts. Instead, I make frog legs for dinner.

[osupa05]

No warts. Instead, I make frog legs for dinner.

hahahaha! that's awesome!

[Leon]

Oh, but I am somewhat desperate.. in a sense, at least! Things had been going naturally and great, for that matter, but all the while he was telling that he didn't have time for a relationship.. but then he would kiss me (which I know that a lot of times guys don't attach the same sentiment to kisses as girls). None the less, I wanted more... I honestly got to hang out with him a few times and then pretty much nothing after that... he's always busy doing something. I don't fault him for being busy, it just makes me really upset that he says he wants to spend time with, but then never makes that time! I understand where he's coming from about not having time (I just got done with the hardest two and half years of my life), but I also know that if I want something bad enough, I will make time for it... he won't make that time for me. And, there's nothing for me to do. It's his choice! But sometimes I will text him and ask him if he wants to go do something.. and I know I should just let him be the one to iniate us doing something. I would love to be his friend, but he doesn't even have time for that right now! Yet, he's still telling me that he wants to see me! It's driving me nut-so and when I'm nuts, sometimes I do desperate things! Haha.. ok, that's my relationship life in a big nutshell.. bet you didn't know I was gonna unleash like that...! I still think that you've got an awesome outlook on relationships, Jay!

Osupa, how old is he and you?

[Leon]

I just don't know enough to weigh in.

[mranderson]

I look at it this way. If a person is really interested, they will MAKE the time to be with someone. This "i'm busy" is an excuse. A way to hide from telling someone the truth.

I know when I am interested in someone, I enjoy my time with them so much, I will even cancel an important appointment just for them.

It just shows how shallow most people are.

[sweetdaisy]

Actually, I would disagree with you, Mr. Anderson. Part of being in a good, healthy relationship is maintaining your independance and identity. If you stop your normal routine to accomodate someone else, that could potentially create problems down the road.

In osupa's case, she knows what it's like to be so busy as to not have much free time. It seems to be a fact more and more as people have second jobs or committments outside of a normal 40 hour week. Granted, I think there's some question about how deep his interest is, but someone being super busy in their lives is not necessarily an excuse...it could very well be an ugly fact that may just need some time before the situation gets better.

[osupa05]

Haha.. well, excuse or not, it's time to let it all go.. not that I had anything to hang onto in the first place! But I am tired of hearing that he wants to see me, but not having enough time! And, I have been really busy in the past, and I do completely understand his being busy. I think you both (Leon and Sweetdaisy) have good points! Besides starting the new year without any hang ups about someone is far better than trying to force something that isn't there! Oh, BTW, Leon, I'm 25 (that will soon change.. yikes!!) and he's 26.. if that adds anymore to the story!! Thanks guys, though for all of your advice and discussion! It's always nice to have an unbiased view on how things are... I know that there's someone upstairs looking after me (and all of us), and I believe that He's got everything under control.. and knows the big pic (like you were saying earlier SwtDsy). I also believe that He's got my best interest at heart, and when the time is right for the both of us, there will be a great guy in my life, who will love me for all my quirkiness!!! Sometimes.. well, O.K. a lot of times.. my heart and brain aren't running the same direction! And one of my biggest problems/assessts is over-analyzing everything... It's a blessing and a curse! Happy New Year's Eve everybody!!!

[sweetdaisy]

You've got a good outlook on the situation, osupa. Move on for now, and if he comes back around, YOU get to be the one in control.

[Leon]

I had asked age because the older someone gets, the less flexible they are to accomodate someone else. 26 isn't quite there yet.

[Jay]

Haha.. well, excuse or not, it's time to let it all go.. not that I had anything to hang onto in the first place! But I am tired of hearing that he wants to see me, but not having enough time! And, I have been really busy in the past, and I do completely understand his being busy. I think you both (Leon and Sweetdaisy) have good points! Besides starting the new year without any hang ups about someone is far better than trying to force something that isn't there! Oh, BTW, Leon, I'm 25 (that will soon change.. yikes!!) and he's 26.. if that adds anymore to the story!! Thanks guys, though for all of your advice and discussion! It's always nice to have an unbiased view on how things are... I know that there's someone upstairs looking after me (and all of us), and I believe that He's got everything under control.. and knows the big pic (like you were saying earlier SwtDsy). I also believe that He's got my best interest at heart, and when the time is right for the both of us, there will be a great guy in my life, who will love me for all my quirkiness!!! Sometimes.. well, O.K. a lot of times.. my heart and brain aren't running the same direction! And one of my biggest problems/assessts is over-analyzing everything... It's a blessing and a curse! Happy New Year's Eve everybody!!!

I am glad to hear everything is working out and you are seeing the light on this situation.



Take love and life casually and everything will work out in the end.

[Curt]

Well Osupa, and I guess this would come as no surprise to hear this from me, but if ya ever get up my way it would be my pleasure to hang out with you and show you around. Ok so I probably just made an ass out of myself again...but what the hell...LOL

[Curt]

I look at it this way. If a person is really interested, they will MAKE the time to be with someone. This "i'm busy" is an excuse. A way to hide from telling someone the truth.

I know when I am interested in someone, I enjoy my time with them so much, I will even cancel an important appointment just for them.

It just shows how shallow most people are.

Exactly , why cant people just tell you the truth. I had given my number to this girl recently because I had asked her out and she asked me for my number, anyway, I did not see her for about a week, and when I went back to eat at that resturant, where she is a waitress she told me she lost my number and she took my number again.........still no calls. I know, no matter how busy I get I always find the time to see a girl I like.

[osupa05]

I'd love to go up north again! It's on my list of things to do... and I'll let you know before I do. Having a tour guide would be neat-o!!! When are you coming back down here?? And I've not contacted that guy without him contacting me first.. I'm not playing games, just letting him do things at his own pace! I'm trying my hardest to not be over bearing... It's been easier since I found something fun to do.. trail running! Wow, what blisters!!!

[Curt]

I'd love to go up north again! It's on my list of things to do... and I'll let you know before I do. Having a tour guide would be neat-o!!! When are you coming back down here?? And I've not contacted that guy without him contacting me first.. I'm not playing games, just letting him do things at his own pace! I'm trying my hardest to not be over bearing... It's been easier since I found something fun to do.. trail running! Wow, what blisters!!!

Well I'd seriously be your tour guide if you ever got up this way. I was up north this weekend for New Years Eve and it was really very beautiful. The snow in the pines and a frozen over lakes with all kinds of snowmobiles and ice fishing, as much as I hate winter in the city, it is realy kind of nice up north.I'll post a picture after I get back from dinner later. I was just in OKC a few weeks ago and had a blast, really like Bricktown, even though I was alone I had fun and made some new friends that hopefully I can hook up with again when I come back, which will be soon. Your doing the right thing by not being overbearing with the guy you like, I have this girl here that is kind of being overbearing with me and it's turning me off, and get this, we have not even met yet and she is already talking marriage, I got her number from someone else. But yah, the games get old, dont they? Trail running sounds pretty good to me, that will keep your mind off of things as well. So....when ya comming up...LOL