Fear of pain

[Oki_Man5]

OK Leon, Since SweetDaisy popped me like she did, might you mention how you ran onto that web site that you posted about in this thread?

Thanks, Pete

[Rooster_Cogburn]

The only reason why someone would post something like this is for attention.

I am sorry I there is nothing I hate more than someone who is feeling sorry for themselves. What was I supposed to do join in on the pity party Sweetdaisy. So you could come in and save the day with some positive words.

Sweetdaisy the dating scene has not changed in years. What has changed is the way people approach it. These days the singles crowd has to over think every thing about love and relationships.

The not so confident people spend every minute before, during and after a date beating themselves up over the situation. The the ones who are somewhat confident scrutinize every action thier date makes and tends to be too judgmental.

Both sides leave the date even more confused then they did before. How are you supposed to enjoy a date when you are acting like a desperate fool or running over Cosmo's latest list of Dating Tips in your head.

Spontaneity and Simplicity are the keys to love. Back when I was dating I had three basic rules. I never went on a date with anyone that I was not strongly attracted to. I made it a point to have fun regardless of the situation. I spoke up when I was not interested unlike some of you singles today.

If I had one message for every single it would be this grow a spine, fear nothing and stop taking finding a mate so seriously. Love is not rocket science stop making it so complicated.

Their is no reason to fear anything what will be is what will be.
Deal with it move on.

Now to all of you stop being a bunch of crybabies and move on.

You want to stay single forever spend your life crying about it.

You want to meat someone who is quality get active and live your life. Eventually someone will turn up.

Peace and Bacon Grease

[Leon]

I think there's a difference between a mate and a date. I don't want a mate. It's wrong for you to assume someone does.

Also, you shouldn't try to tell anyone what they think or feel. You don't think you're telepathic, do ya?

[Leon]

OK Leon, Since SweetDaisy popped me like she did, might you mention how you ran onto that web site that you posted about in this thread?

Thanks, Pete

I couldn't retrace my steps exactly. But I think the way people behave and why is interesting. So I try to learn about it. I post a lot here about the things I read. Sometimes it sparks a lot of discussion, sometimes it doesn't. I try to trigger peoples' thoughts and ask that they post them. Regardless of what anyone thinks of me personally, I'll continue to do so. This is a discussion board. If anyone has an issue with my posts, maybe they should ignore them or try posting a thread of their own occassionally. They just can't seem to resist stooping to personal attacks. Maybe I'll start a thread soon concerning why people tend to 'attack the messenger' instead of the message.

[Rooster_Cogburn]

Well I am done with this discussion.


It is clear to see why this singles section is so dead?

You guys should rename the singles lounge to the crying room.

Truthfully, I came here to see if I could find out a little more about the Oklahoma singles scene so I could help out my younger brother.

None of you real know anything about being single okc except for the fact that your lonely.

If you did you would be talking about places to go on dates. Places to meet the best single people. You would be having gatherings to socialize and get to know each other.

I am guessing you guys are afraid of one another because I read the meeting threads. Nobody is that busy. If you want to do something bad enough you find the time. I think the women on here are afraid of being stalked by some of you. So that is why they are always busy. While some of the guys are just plain afraid of being rejected. So they say their busy too just look cool.

Well that is my last post on the singles lounge section because I am little too real for all of you. I rattle your cages too much when I state the facts.

So with that I am out here.

Don't Forget to Change the name to the Crying Room. Truthfully, that is all this discussion section is.

[Leon]

Well I am done with this discussion.
facts.

Good. LOL
I'll bet ya can't resist returning though.

[Oki_Man5]

Well! Rooster, I might not agree with the way you said some of the things you said, but I cannot find a way to disagree with what you said.

You have to admit that you were a bit harsh to say the least especially to that Darlin' Sweet Daisy. LOL

[sweetdaisy]

Wow! Again! Musta hit some kind of nerve that SweetDaisy has for her to come out swinging like that.

I ducked, by the way as ole Rooster walked right into the bar. LOL

So, Sweetdaisy, I am not entitled to have an opinion, or am I just not allowed to speak it in YOUR SINGLES LOUNGE? Please note that there is no "'" in Singles, so it is not posessive.

Whatever difference that^^^^makes LOL

Dearest Okiman, you are always entitled to your opinion, and you know that. My comment regarding it being the single's lounge is b/c sometimes this is a "safe" place for a single person to come and throw out a rant or have a pity party or whatever. I think it's good to throw out a few whiny sessions here and there to clear your mind of whatever's ailing you. And I'm sure you've seen, the singles on here often beat up on each other for being too whiny, etc, but they can also be supportive or suggest better ways of viewing situations.

My comment to you on this particular thread, Okiman, was to simply point out the fact that Leon was not sympathy seeking when he started this. He saw an article and wanted to see what people thought about it. I do not believe he had any other intention.

The sad thing is, noone has bothered to comment on the silly article, but have instead pounced on an individual and slung blanket statements about what losers we are.

Rooster, I will agree with your statement about not knowing what it's like to be single in OKC. I've been here over a year, and creating a social circle here is not that easy (at least compared to what I'm used to). However, it just takes a little motivation to go out and do SOMETHING (anything, really), and opportunities to meet others will come along...

Thanks for your thoughts guys...I just ask that you ease up on some of the "nasties".

[Oki_Man5]

The theory does not seem to make sense to me---I do not need to jump off a balcony to learn not to do it again: I can look over the balcony and see whether it is too high to safely sprint over it.

Now, for the theory as it applies to asking for a date: That would be an easy crutch to hold onto to convince oneself not to approach someone of the opposite sex (or same sex for some), but just like not having to jump over the railing to know it is going to hurt if I jump, maybe just sizing up the "prospect" would give some insight as to whether the other person was approachable by oneself.

How do you present yourself when you might be going to approach someone? What do you look for in one you might desire to approach?

I do not have the answers to those q's since it has been many many years since I have been in the market to approach.

Yet I will say that many people who post on here if they ever hope to impress anyone else on here need to learn to proofread, and if necessary, buy yourself a dictionary.

If I do not shut up, I will get around to saying something like this board should be renamed to "OKC Snobs" since we are so good at berating Wal-Mart shoppers.



Yeah! That has been eating on me---

Any of you found a place to meet at the Movie Shooting tomorrow?

Leon---start it off by saying you will be there and exactly how other OKC Talk Posters can fine you!

Now, Miss Daisy, if you go back to the beginning of this thread, you will find this to be my first input into it, and you will also find that it was on Leon's third post to the thread (his second reply) before he listed the URL of the "study." That was like after my input and after OSUPA and Midtowner had weighed in on it, and if you reread Midtowner's post, I ask how you could have singled me out as the "bad guy."

You have a very wonderful day, Miss Daisy, and thank you for thinking of me. Peace! Miss Daisy.

[Oki_Man5]

OOPs! I shoulda took my own advice and proofread---the last two words of the quote should have been "find you" and not "fine you."

[sweetdaisy]

Oops! My bad, Okiman! Thank you so much for pointing that out. I guess I became so overwhelmed by the banter, that I missed the original comments!

While responding, I was viewing comments (at the bottom of the screen), and it apparently does not show all responses. Guess I should've scrolled through a bit more.

Although, I should've remembered your comment, as the "OKCSnobs" statement caught my eye and made me laugh.

So to you and any others I overlooked on this, my apologies.

Peace to you, Okiman!

[Oki_Man5]

She don't mean it, guys---she has her fingers King's Exed behind her back on one hand, and a dagger clutched in the other. LOL

[Midtowner]

...and if you reread Midtowner's post, I ask how you could have singled me out as the "bad guy."...

So am I the bad guy? Re-reread and take note that I didn't single anyone out. I just questioned the validity of the study and its potential use in justifying perpetual singlehood. Perhaps I used fewer words than were necessary to make that clear, and I see how it may have been taken as an affront. It certainly was not meant to be.

Rooster/Cock, whatever the heck his name is appears to be a

[Oki_Man5]

Midtowner, nor did I single you nor OSUPA out as a bad guy; I simply stated that you two had weighed in on the "bashing" LOL before Leon ever posted the URL; none of us had the opportunity to read what the study said when we were asked to comment.

[osupa05]

Wow.. I missed some fun/not so fun fireworks!!! Man this working thing is putting a damper on my okctalk time!!!!

[Oki_Man5]

Then you best stop working and get on welfare, so you can keep up!

[osupa05]

haha!!!! :~P

[Oki_Man5]

That is not a bit of tongue you pouched out there; is it, girl?

[osupa05]

perhaps!!!???!!!

[Oki_Man5]

Mayhaps the big guy bump u under your chin? LOL

[Todd]

[mranderson]

Actually, it makes sense. I am not able to count the number of times a woman hurt me by turning me down with no good reason, let alone giving me one at all. For that reason, to this day, I find it difficult to ask a woman out.

[Oki_Man5]

Maybe you should have told her your name was Bob or Joe or Bill or whatever instead of telling her it was Mr. Anderson; you think?