Newly Single now what

[RedDirt717]

I'm a 26 year old male.

I'll worry about finding someone long term in my 30s. If I find someone early I imagine it'll be at church or at school working on my masters.

[Kerry]

She was an airhead but attractive so even the brainy Kerry would ask her out. Sigh.

LOL - I guess your intentions dictate the pickiness. I might have gone on a date with her but she wasn't marrying material.

[FFLady]

Don't go to bars, for a starter!

I'm no expert but figure out what kind of man you are interested in and go where they hang out. I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. <vbg> For someone like me, finding the right kind of guy wouldn't be that hard in Oklahoma. I like the down to earth, sensible type. But you know how it goes. Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

My Mom always said "Meet 'em in a bar, lose 'em in a bar".....

[PennyQuilts]

I like your mom!

I still remember when I was introduced to a couple. They were a little rough but seemed nice. To make conversation, I asked where they met and they said they met at the Red Dog. I just didn't see that coming and stumbled around, then blurted out, "What were you doing at the Red Dog!!??" to the girl.

"I worked there. I was a dancer," she said coldly.

I was torn between embarassment, guit for possibly hurting her feelings, and amazement that someone that homely could ever get hired. She looked like a human bulldog with tats. I started to ask her if she knew my sister-in-law (also a RD dancer) but decided to just let it go...

I actually hung out with them on a softball team for about ten years and they really were the salt of the earth. And stayed together, last I heard.

[possumfritter]

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

That CRACKS me up because it takes me back several decades (my first school dance in 6th grade...I was a wallflower), in the 1960's we didn't dance...we just "moved" to the music, and more recently (kinda) in the 1980's after my divorce.

I never went to the bars. I preferred the nightclubs instead. There was no way I was about to get out on the dance floors. That is until I had about 3-5 vodka tonics. Man, could I dance then, so I thought. Thanks to some very patient Southern Ladies I learned a few moves and ended up really liking to dance.

[Bunty]

It's a man-woman power play. Might mean something or not. Don't be scared. I must say, I was never scared of the "finer" sex. They are complicated but, Fun.. Murph

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

[kevinpate]

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

A lass retains her right to say nada even if the asker has tremendous appeal.

[old okie]

Some great ideas here, really. Know some folks who met at bars and are still married. But the best idea is to have friends' wives 'set you up'; doesn't have to be 'blind dates,' though. They can have you over for a social at their homes, meet out somewhere, etc.

Another thing: hobbies, sports, going back to night school [often more mature students there]. There are adult coed softball teams that are good places to meet people.

Work place: not for dating who works with you--can be risky if the relationship goes south or is prohibited--but your co-workers may know single women outside of the work place.

BTW, I got a good chuckle out of the 'conversation' at the bookstore scenario! How true it is! "Listening," or appearing to, gets more interest than doing all the talking!

[bluedogok]

I'm a 26 year old male.

I'll worry about finding someone long term in my 30s. If I find someone early I imagine it'll be at church or at school working on my masters.

I found it easier to find women that I was interested in when I was in my mid to late 30's than my mid to late 20's. By then most of us have most of the extraneous crap of our lives figured out which made it easier to me to figure out who was worth spending time and effort or not.

[PennyQuilts]

I found it easier to find women that I was interested in when I was in my mid to late 30's than my mid to late 20's. By then most of us have most of the extraneous crap of our lives figured out which made it easier to me to figure out who was worth spending time and effort or not.

Yup. You know yourself better by that age and what you like and what you can live with. The gloss is not nearly as powerful. You start looking for substance and are mature enough to recognize it.

[OU Adonis]

You can do what I do. Wander around aimlessly and look lost in the grocery store and then ask a girl that catches your eye where the lettuce is or something like that.

Ok, so I have never done that. But it sounded good.

[possumfritter]

LOL!! I tried that Friday while at Wal-Mart, in the toothpaste aisle looking confused with my Crest coupon. It didn't work. But, I ain't no Adonis.

[OU Adonis]

Well apparently I can't spell. Its a monday.

[Kerry]

You can do what I do. Wander around aimlessly and look lost in the grocery store and then ask a girl that catches your eye where the lettuce is or something like that.

Ok, so I have never done that. But it sounded good.

You're on the right track but you have to keep asking questions. Just one question won't do it. Here is how it goes.

OU Adonis: Do you know where the lettuce is?

Girl: That way in the corner.

OU Adonis: My mom is coming over for dinner. Do you know what kind of salad dressing goes good with lasagna?

Girl: Italian.

OU Adonis: (laughing) You don't know where that is do you?

Girl: It's just down there with the other condiments.

OU Adonis: Wow, you know where everything is. You don't work here do you?

Girl: No, I just shop here.

OU Adonis: Are you sure you don't have a map of this place or something? Let me give you a hard question. Where is the cream cheese? (this question will make her think).

If she interested she'll go with you to verify the cream cheese location. If not, she was probably a lesbian anyhow (just kidding).

[PennyQuilts]

I was at Borders once.

Him: Hi. Do you like this author?
Me: Never read him. I was actually waiting for the lady to come back from the back. She is looking for a book for me.
Him: Oh, what is she getting?
Me: Oh, some book on birds. (moving away).
Him: Oh, do you like to watch birds?
Me: Yeah.
Him: So, do you go on birdwalks or are you just interested in watching them from the house?
Me: Oh, just where ever. I wonder where that lady is?
Him: So do you come here very often?
Me: No. Oh, here she comes.
Him: Nice talking to you! I'm here a lot, maybe I will see you next time.
Me: Okay, nice talking to you, too. (walk towards the lady)
The Lady: Is he bothering you? He is here all the time and some women have complained...

True story. A long time ago. Back when I was fetching and single.

[OU Adonis]

So what your saying is you have met Kerry once?


Just kidding. Thats good advice Kerry. Just got to be sure and read the body language so your not being a pest.

Me, I just usually stop at asking with the Lettuce is. Hah!

[PennyQuilts]

I was teasing about my experience although it really was true. I think Kerry gave excellent advice. And if she ends up talking all about herself and never asks about you, run.

[OU Adonis]

I was teasing about my experience although it really was true. I think Kerry gave excellent advice. And if she ends up talking all about herself and never asks about you, run.

Sounds like my last 3 girlfriends. I ran, but it was always too late.

[PennyQuilts]

Most people in crappy relationships had warnings they ignored, assuming they didn't marry within a month before the red flags began flapping in the breeze - of course, that's just a different kind of insanity. <vbg>

[RealJimbo]

Me: Excuse me, but I'm a complet idiot. I've never been grocery shopping before and don't even know where to start. Do you have any advice for someone like me?
She: Bye now.

Maybe it's the hook or maybe the glass eye, but they never fell for that.

[possumfritter]

OU Adonis,

The next time you are at the grocery store, instead of asking about lettuce, salad dressings and cream cheese, ask the lady if she knows the difference between hamburger and sex?

[PennyQuilts]

OU Adonis,

The next time you are at the grocery store, instead of asking about lettuce, salad dressings and cream cheese, ask the lady if she knows the difference between hamburger and sex?

Oh good lord.

If she didn't automatically punch him in the nose or scream for security, I suspect she would be thinking, even if she didn't say it aloud, "With you, there probably isn't all that much difference."

[OU Adonis]

This reminds me of a really bad joke

Guy to a random woman "Hey, want to grab a pizza then go have sex?"

Woman Slaps guy

Guy "Why do you have a problem with pizza?"

[possumfritter]

Lol!!!

[possumfritter]

Well Miss Penny, the "only" time I posed that question to a young lady it was to my wife. She answered, "no." So, naturally I asked her if she wanted to go out to lunch?