Is age just a number?

[Curtis]

Whats your thoughts here...I am 51, my last G.F was 31.She pursued me knowing my age and of course I was good with it. This is mostly for the women, whats your thoughts on dating older?
Most people mistake me for 35 to 40, which I am cool with..

To me age is just a number..

[Zuplar]

Age is most definitely a number, to a degree. IMO once a person gets to a certain maturation point, it's fairly acceptable to hang out or date people older or younger. I hang out with people that are 10 and 20 years older than myself but we all have the same hobbys.

[Achilleslastand]

Someone famous once said " the good thing about being my age is I can date girls half my age and not get thrown in jail".

[ljbab728]

Absolutely age is just a number. The things that can happen to your body as you age real issues as I'm finding out recently in spades.

[Plutonic Panda]

TBH, I'd prefer dating an older woman. I'm into cougars and such. As far as a woman dating an older man, I don't see a problem with it.

[boscorama]

A number is just a number. Age is more complicated.

[MWCGuy]

It all depends on the person. I've met older people who had the maturity of a teenager and I have met 18 to early twenty somethings with the maturity of a 50 year old.

I think where people go wrong is chasing someone who is not interested in them to begin with. If there is a spark you will know. If there is not one move on there are plenty of people out there who you can have a good time with and make a lot of fun memories. No need to make it creepy.

Age is only important in my book when the person is a minor. I don't care who you are or how great you are, you don't belong in a relationship with a minor.

Lastly.... keep an open mind love does not come in a supermodel body. I have always found the average ladies are the best ones to have. They will take care of you if you take care of them.

[Oh GAWD the Smell!]

Age is just a number?


Only old people say that.



And maybe people under 25 trying to rent a car.

[Just the facts]

30 vs. 50 = no big deal
50 vs. 70 = big deal

Relationship age differences are like dog years. The is an initial point where age is a big deal, then this huge gap in the middle where age difference isn't a problem, then near the upper end it becomes a big deal again. Of course, if people are only in it for the money then all bets are off. My observation has been that a younger man might like 45 year old women - but they want a new crop of 45 year old women every few years. They don't have much of an interest in a 60 year old woman.

[betts]

Although, it is more logical for women to marry/be in a long term relationship with a younger man, as women generally live longer. And I wouldn't want to spend my fifties caring for a man 70+ personally.

[Just the facts]

You're right Betts. It's all great until medical issues start popping up, then it's, "do I go out and have good time or wipe pudding off my invalid husband/boyfriends mouth?" And that romantic trip to Paris isn't the same when hauling around an oxygen tank.

[bchris02]

Not sure I would agree with this. Being in my later twenties I feel I'm in a race to pass certain life milestones by the time I am 30 (marriage, owning a home) and I am not sure I am going to get there. I wish I could say that age is just a number but in our society it isn't so much. There are certain milestones we are expected to have reached by a certain age especially in more conservative circles, such as finishing college by 22, marriage by 24, kids by 27 and home ownership by 30. There is a lot of pressure to meet these deadlines it seems like.

[kelroy55]

TBH, I'd prefer dating an older woman. I'm into cougars and such. As far as a woman dating an older man, I don't see a problem with it.

I would do that but all the women that are older than me are in the nursing home.

[RadicalModerate]

I'd say that age is more of a word than a number.
Unlike 175
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[Jim Kyle]

There is a lot of pressure to meet these deadlines it seems like.

The pressure can affect you ONLY if you permit it to do so. That is, I think, one of the major lessons I've learned in the past helf-century or more.

I met the first deadline early, turning 21 only a couple of months before getting my BA/2nd Lt bars, but missed the second. Made up for it, by a month, on the third, acquiring an entire family 32 days before turning 27 -- and bought a house only a year later. However I didn't particularly feel any external pressure to meet any of those other than the first, and with a shooting war in progress at the time, it provided all the pressure for the first as I ignored the rest of society...

I can't say that age is just a number, but to a large degree it IS just a state of mind. The other day my wife and I were having lunch at a WhataBurger and two old men were conversing in a booth next to ours. Their entire conversation dealt with their respective health problems, and visits to a cemetery (at least one was apparently a recent widower). When they got up to leave, I saw that both were leaning heavily on canes -- and neither of them appeared to be a day past 70, which made them more than a decade my junior! I remarked on it to my wife, who's six years younger than I am but doesn't look a day past 60. Then I gathered up my oxygen bottle and my own cane and headed out to our vehicle for the drive home.

Physical age cannot be minimized. Mental age, however, is a matter of choice. It's all up to you, not to the pressures of society. Pleading pressure, to put it bluntly, is a copout!

[bluedogok]

Yes...I dated some who were my age and older (mid to late 30's back 10+ years ago) that acted like teens and some in their 20's who acted 60. Not a gender specific thing either, knew guys who were the same way.

[Plutonic Panda]

I would do that but all the women that are older than me are in the nursing home.

Then age may possibly be more than "just a number" if you're implying I should get out and hunt for older women while I'm still 19? Unless you follow the "cougar" line where older women hunt younger men. lol j/k. . . I turn 20 on the 29th of this month though.

I would be hunting some place else than a nursing home for my future wife haha

[Plutonic Panda]

The pressure can affect you ONLY if you permit it to do so. That is, I think, one of the major lessons I've learned in the past helf-century or more.

I met the first deadline early, turning 21 only a couple of months before getting my BA/2nd Lt bars, but missed the second. Made up for it, by a month, on the third, acquiring an entire family 32 days before turning 27 -- and bought a house only a year later. However I didn't particularly feel any external pressure to meet any of those other than the first, and with a shooting war in progress at the time, it provided all the pressure for the first as I ignored the rest of society...

I can't say that age is just a number, but to a large degree it IS just a state of mind. The other day my wife and I were having lunch at a WhataBurger and two old men were conversing in a booth next to ours. Their entire conversation dealt with their respective health problems, and visits to a cemetery (at least one was apparently a recent widower). When they got up to leave, I saw that both were leaning heavily on canes -- and neither of them appeared to be a day past 70, which made them more than a decade my junior! I remarked on it to my wife, who's six years younger than I am but doesn't look a day past 60. Then I gathered up my oxygen bottle and my own cane and headed out to our vehicle for the drive home.

Physical age cannot be minimized. Mental age, however, is a matter of choice. It's all up to you, not to the pressures of society. Pleading pressure, to put it bluntly, is a copout!

Great post Mr. Kyle and I wish you the best sir!

[hoya]

Age is just a number. That's what I tell high school girls. Along with "hey baby, I have a car."

[hoya]

TBH, I'd prefer dating an older woman. I'm into cougars and such. As far as a woman dating an older man, I don't see a problem with it.

Dude, an older woman for you just means she can buy you beer.

[Plutonic Panda]

Dude, an older woman for you just means she can buy you beer.

Well, I'm not really into just a sugar momma, but yeah haha. . . I'm also not the biggest fan of alcohol, but I'll have a good time when needed

[windowphobe]

In my case, it's just a number -- but a very high number.

[Curtis]

Haha...that's how I feel.

[Curtis]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts...Seems either way around here, in my town, its hard to find a good one at any age.

[Teo9969]

I'd say that age is more of a word than a number.
Unlike 175
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This is gold!