View Yourself, View Others
Well, well, well, here it is, about 10:30 on a Saturday night as I begin to write this. This is the first Saturday night in weeks that I actually 'could have' gone out. But I decided not to.
Ya see, I've been hoping to find a serious or semi-serious woman somewhere. More specifically, one I'm attracted too also.
So I think.....Many questions....What actually attracts me? And what's attractive about me?
Physical appearance is critical. I don't mean you must be a "10" with a perfect body and face. I mean your body, your dress, and your behavior are all visible. And they are what cause a person to decide whether you are approachable or not. Any one of those factors can be a show-stopper in both directions.
Body too good: obsessed with physical fitness, I'm not.
Body too bad: lifestyle indicator, not my type
Dress too up: obsessed with appearance, too much time shopping, no amount of money is enough, self-centered, hours to get dressed for a trip to Wal-Mart, etc.
Dressed too down: trash, dirty house, bad hygeine
Behavior: too outgoing, no time for me; introverted, I need help to carry the conversation; too flirty, she either cheat or I'll be competing the rest of my life.
With all these "toos", I think my godess is probably not in a nightclub on a Saturday night....time to stop looking for her there.
So, to view myself, I "think" I'm not in bad physical shape but I'm no work-out freak. I'm sure I don't dress bad or too uppity. My behavior....that changes with time....It takes me a bit of time to open up. That's Leon's problem....most ladies are too impatient to see 'me' and move on before 'I' show up.
So.....how do you single see yourselves and others?
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