Hotel + Apt = ?

[Thunder]

I'm at a bit of crisis here with nowhere to go. Long story... I'm getting the hell out...and fast. Bro and his girl is getting out, too. Our mother is....use your imagination. So, I have been trying to think and look online for an affordable hotel that is similar to apt, etc. Value Place has kool features, but pricey at $200 weekly. They do extended-stay such as an option instead of apartment. Is there anywhere else similar, but lower priced weekly or monthly? I'm packing and getting out asap...so divine intervention is urgent.

[OKCTalker]

$200 per week is pricey?

[Larry OKC]

I imagine that Thunder is living at home and even if the rent is split evenly, it probably is considerably less than $800/month. So I can understand where he is coming from. As a short term option (for a week or two) until he can get a regular apt lined up is one thing, but still money that could be going towards first/last month rent etc.
if I hear of anything or have any ideas will let ya know. have you checked with an Apartment Finders type outfit? have seen directories at Buy 4 Less and such. probably have a website. They may be able to point you in the right direction. I used a similar service when i was trying to find a place in Houston (no cost to you, they get paid by the place when you rent).

[Thunder]

I'm looking into Summer Oaks. Problem is with apts...they want income 3x the rent amount. I could try...

I've been with Sec8 for a while and they are overly strict with yearly inspection (they cry when there is no light bulb on front porch, etc), but I'd really want to avoid them like I did previously.

[Achilleslastand]

I knew someone that stayed at the Dorchester Apts at Wilshire and N May and rent was only 600 a month plus all bills are paid.
Not sure of their phone# tho..................

[kevinpate]

short term if you need fast change ... friend's couch (do not stay beyond a week, max, even if told you are welcome to stay)
gives you breathing room.

But in truth, if 200 week, including utilities phone and cable, is a stretch for you, you're probably going to need a roommate to make things work. Might be worth a renewed effort to find a peace with your momma, and for more reasons than living expenses.

Never fool yourself into thinking your momma is immortal and will always be there despite all odds, and never get so upset with her that you have to regret it later. Life is always shorter than you want it to be.

[okcisok]

Thunder, that is sound advise from kevinpate. See if you can hold out until your Bro and his girl leave. That might help your mothers stress load.

[Just the facts]

If a $1 light bulb is a concern you need to find a way to live at home. You might not be ready to accept the responsibilities and cost of living on you own. That isn't a knock against you, just my observation. My brother was 30 before he finally moved out permanently.

[Thunder]

I can manage on my own. Its just that Value Place are too pricey at $800 monthly for that kind of place. I'm getting my stuff together and just getting ready. My only hope is that an apt management just let me in without the 3x the rent income crap.

www.summeroaksapts.com

[Just the facts]

Is this just a temporary place until you can find something else or do you plan to live this way for 6 months or more?

[BBatesokc]

That "3x the rent income crap" is a policy for a reason and makes good sense to both the responsible property owner and potential mature renter. The average person on their own has rent/mortgage, utilities, insurance (home/renter, car & health), car payment, gasoline, groceries, home necessities and a cell phone bill every month. That doesn't even include eating out, entertainment, furnishings, clothing, unexpected emergencies (car breaks down, insurance co-pays, etc.).

I'd suggest making amends. It is more than understandable that your momma could be overly annoyed from time to time that she is still supporting her two live-in adult children and a freeloading girlfriend of one of those adult children.

If moving out is a necessity (which I strongly suggest for anyone over the age of 21) then maybe looking to Craigslist under 'roommates' is an option - though ripe with its own pitfalls. You can often find a room in a nice home with bills paid for $300-$600. The upside is you're living in a home instead of an apartment, most of the house is already furnished, most often includes Internet and cable TV, some have pools and the list goes on.

The lower end apartments often are poorly managed, have bizarre tenants, need to be furnished, most likely require you to pay utilities, are often strict about lease agreements being fulfilled and can be less secure.

Then off course there's the monthly rate at the Habana Inn.

[OKCMallen]

$200 per week is pricey?

$800/month ain't cheap if you want to live in an apt.

[cameron_405]

...there are less expensive 1-bedroom alternatives, Thunder. I often drive by the Warren House on Meridian (near 39th Expwy), and they advertise on their outdoor sign "$445/mo furnished, month-to-month, all bills paid" -- pretty sure they also have unfurnished units.

http://apartments.oodle.com/view/1-b...ahoma-city-ok/

[Roadhawg]

I'm looking into Summer Oaks. Problem is with apts...they want income 3x the rent amount. I could try...

I've been with Sec8 for a while and they are overly strict with yearly inspection (they cry when there is no light bulb on front porch, etc), but I'd really want to avoid them like I did previously.

I hope you either make up with your mom or find a place you like, neither one will be easy.

[Thunder]

I'm probably gonna have to go with Sec8. :-(

[Thunder]

They're not accepting applications. I'm screwed.

I only get $868 from SSDI. :-(

[BBatesokc]

They're not accepting applications. I'm screwed.

I only get $868 from SSDI. :-(

Biting my tongue (which is not an easy thing for me)

[okcisok]

Thunder....not knowing your situation here is just a "suggestion". Talk to your Mom about paying her some amount of money on a regular basis. Just any $ amount but make it's the same each time and that you get it to her on time, every month just like you would have to if you were in an apartment. You probably are already helping out with the finances, but if it is more a regular payment it would serve her better and make you feel better about it too in the long run. Hopefully, the other two can find other arrangements. : )

[Thunder]

Biting my tongue (which is not an easy thing for me)

Well, Brian, I gave it all I got over the course of 5 years on my own. The first 3 years, I was on Sec8 and worked at Walmart for nearly a year then at Target for a year. I almost dropped my SSDI, because I picked full time at Target, but I was advised not to. Then you know the dire situation with the city condemning such a precious apartment complex, I opted out of Sec8 when I decided to rent at Sunnyview (close to you) for 2 years (worked at Crest for 2 years). Money was gawd damn tight. I got screwed at Crest with shoulder injury and the constant dizziness and head pains. So, what were you going to say, Brian? That I'm one of those lowlife scum using government's money? FYI, I thought moving back with mom would be easier, but it turns out that I had to also support my brother and his *gasps* lover. I'm tired here.

[Thunder]

Thunder....not knowing your situation here is just a "suggestion". Talk to your Mom about paying her some amount of money on a regular basis. Just any $ amount but make it's the same each time and that you get it to her on time, every month just like you would have to if you were in an apartment. You probably are already helping out with the finances, but if it is more a regular payment it would serve her better and make you feel better about it too in the long run. Hopefully, the other two can find other arrangements. : )

I'm already giving her loads of money and helping with the frickin bills.

What I don't appreciate is her hiding the frickin remote and stealing my shaver. This morning, she started a fight with my brother.

[Achilleslastand]

short term if you need fast change ... friend's couch (do not stay beyond a week, max, even if told you are welcome to stay)
gives you breathing room.

But in truth, if 200 week, including utilities phone and cable, is a stretch for you, you're probably going to need a roommate to make things work. Might be worth a renewed effort to find a peace with your momma, and for more reasons than living expenses.

Never fool yourself into thinking your momma is immortal and will always be there despite all odds, and never get so upset with her that you have to regret it later. Life is always shorter than you want it to be.

+1

And did you try Dorchester Apts?
Rent there is only around 600 a month all bills paid.
And remember you only have one mother she wont be around forever to argue with.........or hug.

[Thunder]

+1

Does this mean I'm bunking with Achilleslastand?

[OKCTalker]

Thunder - I'm with most everybody else here. See if you can make amends with your mom, and then turn this strictly into a business relationship where you come to an agreement on "rent" per month plus doing some duties around the house (mowing the lawn, minor repairs, running errands, etc.). Maybe a simple, hand-written agreement would help minimize future misunderstandings, as would making on-time payments and helping around the house.

My brother asked mom to finance his purchase of a car years ago, thinking that she'd be a pushover. She made him write out 36 checks (you may be too young to remember those days), which she'd deposit every month. She had an extra set of keys, and told him that when the first check bounced, the car was hers. She meant it, and he knew it. Every check cleared as promised. He earned a lot of respect from her.

[OKCTalker]

Oh - and have you checked Craigslist?

[BBatesokc]

Well, Brian, I gave it all I got over the course of 5 years on my own. The first 3 years, I was on Sec8 and worked at Walmart for nearly a year then at Target for a year. I almost dropped my SSDI, because I picked full time at Target, but I was advised not to. Then you know the dire situation with the city condemning such a precious apartment complex, I opted out of Sec8 when I decided to rent at Sunnyview (close to you) for 2 years (worked at Crest for 2 years). Money was gawd damn tight. I got screwed at Crest with shoulder injury and the constant dizziness and head pains. So, what were you going to say, Brian? That I'm one of those lowlife scum using government's money? FYI, I thought moving back with mom would be easier, but it turns out that I had to also support my brother and his *gasps* lover. I'm tired here.

Never said you were a "lowlife scum using government's money." I do find it odd you criticize virtually everything about local and federal government (often without any perspective on rational reality), yet seem to have no problem taking their money and benefits. I openly agree that assistance is often a necessity for those with real challenges beyond laziness and self imposed afflictions like addiction and a felony record. You obviously have some physical challenges and I could see where it could make it difficult to maintain full-time employment.

However, it doesn't sound like your dear mother is tossing you out on the streets. It sounds like you are annoyed with living with her and your brother and his leech - which is understandable - until you disclose your master plan is to move out to live off the tit of the tax payers. If your mother is not making you leave and you're simply annoyed because the TV remote is not readily available, I say get over it. Form a unified front with your mom and kick your brother out and live happily ever after. But that's just my two cents.