Personals websites

[mranderson]

Do you have an ad on any personals websites? How well are they working? Are you a paid member?

[Spookytourchick]

I am listed on Hot or Not and its just crazy... just more passive Men who cant step away from thier computer long enough to make a phone call, much less step outside for a date.

[Leon]

Considering Yahoo.....Maybe this fall.

[Spookytourchick]

Let me know how it goes. Im rather turned off on the internet scene. Too many married men that lie.

[Curt]

Here is what I have experienced with the singles websites, I have tried yahoo, american singles, and a few others and on all of them here is what I found. Sure most are free to sign up, but then there is a charge to contact anyone, then there is a charge to contact a gold or silver member, then there is a charge for them to contact you. Another thing to look for is the ads made up by the site itself, enticing you to keep looking by putting in an ad that is just to good to be true, like "Hi, my name is ---------- and I just moved here from --------- and I am going to college and looking for an activity partner", or something to that effect. They do this just to keep your interest and keep you paying. Another thing is for instance, seeing a profile on page 6 for example, then finding that same profile on page 29, they do this to "pad" the number of profiles, like 1000, when it may only be 100. You will see some of the same people on different sites, as many times as I have mailed women on these sites, I never got any replies, but actually still see them on the site a year later. Dont fall for them, it's a scam, save your money to meet someone right around the corner and take them out to dinner.

[angelice]

I have mixed feelings about the personals websites. I tried match a few years ago and meet someone and we dated for two years. He was in the military and ended up moving. I have been single again now for almost two years and I have my profile up on several places. Since then it all seems the same. Same men, same lines... I am also listed on hotornot, which I just think is fun, not really to meet anyone, certainly not my soulmate. Though I have meet a few guys on there and we have became friends. It truly is hard to meet people these days. As some of you know, I am the event coordinator for speed dating (pre-dating) here in OKC. Pre-dating is owned by cupid.com which is another personals site, so I do have my profile on that. It is not nearly as good as some of the other sites, I guess it just depends on how well the sites are known, as to how good the results are going to be.

angie

[Spookytourchick]

How effective is Speed Dating? I have not tried that. And I cant afford to find my soulmate lol

[mranderson]

I am on Match.com and Yahoo personals. Yahoo has gotten me several dates and one close friend, maybe two. Match is too new to evaluate for me.

[angelice]

Well we guarntee that some will like you, if not you get the next event free. I have already had a few people get married and another couple getting married this year. It truly just depends on what you are looking for. Our events are for single professionals and we always hold them in crabtown, in Bricktown. We try and keep it fun and nice. I have returning customers because they enjoy meeting people and make really good friends from the events. You never know you might meet someone and they might have a friend that would be perfect for you. Your expanding your social group. If you are interested in attending an event, I have set up a promo code for okctalk.com and it will get you in the event for $22.00. Just let me know!

[sweetdaisy]

Great thread...I have to comment on this one.

I've tried:

Match.com
eharmony.com
Yahoo Personals
8-minute dating
pre-dating

I'm still single...

I will say that I've enjoyed match.com quite a bit and really like 8-minute dating (did that when I lived up north). I've been to a couple of pre-dating events here in OKC, but was not terribly impressed with many of the jokers who were there. Seems the event coordinator for the ones I went to just rounded up a bunch of her friends to sit in and fill up open spots. No offense, angelice.

I tend to be highly entertained at the speed dating events, though. To me, it's a great opportunity to go out and have drinks & appetizers with a somewhat captive audience where you're guaranteed to talk to several people of the opposite sex! No watering hole can compete with that!

[mranderson]

I am not fimiliar with eight minute dating. Is that a national site? E-Harmony costs a fortune, so I passed on it.

I paid for Yahoo and Match, but I am listed on a lot of other sites too. Some I can reply, most I would need to pay.

[Spookytourchick]

Right now Im working on being the best hermit that I can possibly be!

[sweetdaisy]

I believe 8-minute dating was one of the original speed dating events offered. It was popular up north, but haven't seen much for it here in OKC. I prefer it to some of the other speed dating events b/c it is 8 minutes as opposed to 3 or 5 minutes. You have more opportunity to get to know someone in that longer time frame. Though, 8 minutes can be a REALLY long time if the person sitting across from you is icky.

[travich]

angelice, I'd be terrified to speed date. Oh my God, I wouldn't be rejected by 1 woman, but like... 20!! What self esteem killer. LOL

You guys talk about too many married men on the internet, take it from a single (or divorced) guys' perspective, there are too many women with kids out there!! Either way, the internet is probably better than a bar to meet people. If I went to church though, that's where I'd look... I hear those church women can be freaks!! (Just kidding)

[angelice]

No offense taken. When did you attend the events in OKC. I have only been the coordinator since October. I can say that I have only had to round up a few friends once, and I only had to round up 2 of them, so all the other men are legit. I have had a lot of sucess with couples from my events. It works for some people and not for others. Just really depends on what you are looking for and if they happen to be at the events. But it is also a time to get out and meet new people.

[Karried]

Spookytourchick, where are you on the photo gallery? I couldn't find your pic anywhere...

[Leon]

I was considering the predating/speed dating thing, but I think not now. Just the idea that even one of the attendees would be a 'plant' makes the whole idea reek of a scam. To think that people are paying money to meet people who are actually there only as a favor to the coordinator, that's sad. It's just plain mean to prey on people like that.

[Spookytourchick]

Well, you might as well get used to the women with kids thing, its not going to get any better the older you get. IF a woman has kids does not mean the kids need a "daddy", just someone to accept them.

But if you dont like kids, then there is nothing that you can do about it. lol

Good luck! And I too dont know if I could do the speed dating, sometimes first impressions are the most confusing ones.

[Leon]

Now, if I was to do speed-dating, one of my first questions would be, "Do you know the coordinator outside this setting?"...or..."Do you know anyone here?" Actually it just moved a little lower on my list of things to do.

[Karried]

Can you imagine if men could get pregnant? It seems sad to penalize women who have kids to a life of being alone when the man gets off scott free. I mean it does take two to procreate..... and most men are the persistent instigators of sexual relations, it's all fun and games, until the responsibility of kids hit and off they run - like dogs. The women step up to the plate, take care of their kids and still get penalized 'for having kids' by single men. Kids can be a lot of fun and you don't have to father them, just treat their mom with respect and see where it goes.

( not all men do this, just some - and dogs they are) I think they should be sterilized. Nothing irks me more than men who impregnate woman, and then leave them penniless and the kids fatherless and go on to do it again to another woman.

[Karried]

Leon, if she's cute and single, that won't be the first question you ask .......

... just because she was invited by the coordinator doesn't mean she's not single and won't be smitten by your charm -

I don't think they would 'plant' married unavailable' people - or would they?

Now you have me thinking about it! Clarification please... inquiring minds want to know...

[sweetdaisy]

Usually, when coordinators ask their friends to join in the "fun", their friends are single and looking and want to be there. Unfortuately, the couple times I've experienced it here, the friends weren't really very interested in participating.

Don't assume all speed dating events would be bummers just because I've had a couple of experiences that weren't impressive. I was more disappointed with the potential matches than I was with the coordinator's friends.

[BricktownGuy]

I have to agree with Karried on this. its not going to get any better the older you get, its basically part of the territory. Learn to accept it.

[Leon]

Karried, I' for one have no problems with a woman having children, at my age I'd expect it. I wonder if it may be her issue to a point. If you wanna have a date at Chucky Cheese, fine with me....ya just have to go somewhere where the kids have something to do. Now, every date a Chucky Cheese, no. What would be the problem with taking the kids to a ball game or races. I guess it depends on the kids' behavior more than that they're there. Clearly if the child throws public fits, kicking and screaming demanding a candy bar, the guy wont be back. Pick a place wher the kids can be entertained, yet you and him can talk and believe me minor interruptions will be part of it. The guy wants to get to know you, will the kids allow that? I've heard plenty off guys say, 'she's got two great kids'. I'm personally old enough that to date only women without kids means cutting my opportunities by 90%.

First questions speed dating. Ya got any tatoos, oddball piercings, know the coordinator?....Notice, nothing there about kids. I have a boy too. If a woman wont accept him, I wouldn't go any further with her.

[angelice]

The people are not "plants" they are single and they do pay to attend. The one time I needed two friends to help attend I had 12 women and only 10 men. So instead of having to cancel the event or having two women sitting alone, I called two single friends to see if they would be interested in attending. And one of the friends meet someone and is still dating them and that was over 5 months ago. There is nothing "rigged" or a "scam".