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[JohnnyW]

No disrespect, but yours is just as disingenuous by implying your family was "more loving" merely by virtue of the fact that BBates imposed rules. You can't get away with that.

I haven't made any huge deal about privacy "rights" with my kids. They have (almost) none. I've just made it known I can look at anything, anytime, anywhere, including computers, books, and so on. I'm their dad, not their buddy, their landlord, or whatever else might come to mind. And in that time I've come across a few things I had to deal with, they were dealt with, and we moved on. Have I ever gone on a scorched-earth "search and destroy" mission looking for incriminating things? No, but by the same token I've never been given a second glance on those occasions when I've come into their room and looked for something entirely innocuous I suspected might be in a desk or dresser, and I've never had the sense they hesitated in my doing so in a "defensive" way. In that vein, I won't make any pretense of perfection by any means, but neither my 18-year-old son nor my 16-year-old daughter have ever confronted me in the manner described by the OP.

I respect their privacy when it comes to obvious, "duh" things like getting dressed in the morning, of course, but I'd have to assume that goes without saying.

Can you please point to the post where I stated my family was "more loving?" This is yet another logical fallacy called a strawman. You have attempted to put up a defense of something that I have simply not stated.