Newly Single now what

[FlightInstructor002]

Hello to all:

Heres is a long boring background about me:

Very new to this sort of thing so bare with me....
I was born and raised in Oklahoma so I'm a big time Sooner fan "Boomer", but I also love to travel.

I went to Southeastern State University and studied Aviation Management and Safety. I also went to Flight school for OU and was certified as a Commercial Pilot, Flight and Instrument Instructor. Right now I work as an Aeronautical Design Specialist were I oversee a region of the United States Airspace by amending and developing instrument flight procedures.

I feel very blessed with the success thats been given to me at such an early age and by no means do I take it for granted. I try to live life to the fullest and work hard to keep my future bright and entertaining....

I cant wait to find somone to share my life with....man will that ever happen?
Need to find some local places to go and meet up with you all


Thanks

Bryan

[Karried]

Welcome Bryan,

Sounds like you are a hard worker.... it may be time to get out and play now that your career is established.

Good luck!

[PennyQuilts]

Good luck - when you are ready, it will happen. Some of the swinging singles can probably give you some ideas of where to meet people.

I think Karried made a very good point.

[Kerry]

Ask your friends to help out. If your male friends are married asked their wives to set you up. Women love to play match maker - so let them.

[stickboy]

You should consider an online service like Match.com. It's worked out great for a lot of people that I know, and I don't think it carries the social stigma that it once did.

[kevinpate]

I never got the whole social stigma thing. Guess because I've been married so long, but just never understood how "we met online" was even a hair different than we met 'in a bar' 'at a disco' 'at a rave'' 'public library' or a 'save the whatever de jour'

[mugofbeer]

I never got the whole social stigma thing. Guess because I've been married so long, but just never understood how "we met online" was even a hair different than we met 'in a bar' 'at a disco' 'at a rave'' 'public library' or a 'save the whatever de jour'

Or that old favorite: "I woke up next to her one morning after a party."

[blui25]

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

[PennyQuilts]

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

Don't go to bars, for a starter!

I'm no expert but figure out what kind of man you are interested in and go where they hang out. I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. <vbg> For someone like me, finding the right kind of guy wouldn't be that hard in Oklahoma. I like the down to earth, sensible type. But you know how it goes. Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

[FFLady]

Don't go to bars, for a starter!

I'm no expert but figure out what kind of man you are interested in and go where they hang out. I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. <vbg> For someone like me, finding the right kind of guy wouldn't be that hard in Oklahoma. I like the down to earth, sensible type. But you know how it goes. Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

My Mom always said "Meet 'em in a bar, lose 'em in a bar".....

[Bunty]

I think it is hard to meet the right kind of people in OKlahoma City. When I go out with friends its usually to bars and most of the guys I run into are sloppy drunk and looking for the bimbo type. I am a successful 26 year olf femaile looking for the rel deal, so I am with you, where do we meet them?

If you go to church, at church. Or volunteer for some public service or political grass roots organization. But then a lot of people there may not be single. So don't cut bars short. Just be more judgemental about the guys who go to such places. They can't all be drunken jerks. A woman I know met her husband in a bar. By the way, if a guy asks you to dance in a bar, you won't get anywhere by saying "no".

[PennyQuilts]

If he asks you to dance, by all means do so, because once you are married, dancing is over, baby!!

[kevinpate]

If he asks you to dance, by all means do so, because once you are married, dancing is over, baby!!

Yeah, I've heard that from so many women. What I don't get is why y'all decide ya don't wanna dance with your hubbys anymore once you get married to them?




All keeding aside, my lovely never much cottoned to dancing in the first instance, nor to heaven on earth aka boiled shrimp. But hey, I gots a flaw or two as well.
Bottom line, she settled, I married up, in a big way, and we got past it.

[PennyQuilts]

Dancing is not a big deal at our house. Now, if the man decides he ain't cooking nomore, I will cry like a baby. He's a helluva cook.

[Bunty]

And why do so many women say no to a guy who asks them for a dance? I was always tormented by that when younger.

[gen70]

And why do so many women say no to a guy who asks them for a dance? I was always tormented by that when younger.

It's a man-woman power play. Might mean something or not. Don't be scared. I must say, I was never scared of the "finer" sex. They are complicated but, Fun.. Murph

[Bunty]

It's a man-woman power play. Might mean something or not. Don't be scared. I must say, I was never scared of the "finer" sex. They are complicated but, Fun.. Murph

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

[kevinpate]

But when guys lack sex appeal with the ladies they are completely out of it. Then ladies have every right to say, NO!, when asked to dance. Right?

A lass retains her right to say nada even if the asker has tremendous appeal.

[old okie]

Some great ideas here, really. Know some folks who met at bars and are still married. But the best idea is to have friends' wives 'set you up'; doesn't have to be 'blind dates,' though. They can have you over for a social at their homes, meet out somewhere, etc.

Another thing: hobbies, sports, going back to night school [often more mature students there]. There are adult coed softball teams that are good places to meet people.

Work place: not for dating who works with you--can be risky if the relationship goes south or is prohibited--but your co-workers may know single women outside of the work place.

BTW, I got a good chuckle out of the 'conversation' at the bookstore scenario! How true it is! "Listening," or appearing to, gets more interest than doing all the talking!

[OU Adonis]

Yeah the Bar thing gets old. I haven't really met that many girls that I wanted to date long term from a bar. Its a good social setting but a lot of times your not going to meet the real person through their drunken fascade.

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

[bradzilla]

bars, bars, and more bars....

no not really, but you do need to get used to talking to women again and its the easist place to start. while you have that started have your friends wives try to play matchmaker for you, as someone said earlier women love to do it and they will have access to single girls that you wouldnt.

even if you dont like the girls they refer you to still go out with them and be their friends, you would be amazed how hanging out with one woman as a friend will attract another.....

womens natural instict is to herd with other women, so if another woman is around you it makes you a 'safer' person.

[PennyQuilts]

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

Too bad you weren't born into MY family, eh?

[OU Adonis]

Too bad you weren't born into MY family, eh?

Touche`

I probably would of been better off. I am the poster child for bad dancing. I flail with my elbows a bit and barely move my feet.

[possumfritter]

And I am really screwed. Because I can't dance. I have stiff white boy syndrome.

That CRACKS me up because it takes me back several decades (my first school dance in 6th grade...I was a wallflower), in the 1960's we didn't dance...we just "moved" to the music, and more recently (kinda) in the 1980's after my divorce.

I never went to the bars. I preferred the nightclubs instead. There was no way I was about to get out on the dance floors. That is until I had about 3-5 vodka tonics. Man, could I dance then, so I thought. Thanks to some very patient Southern Ladies I learned a few moves and ended up really liking to dance.

[Kerry]

I expect it is a little like deer hunting. Find out where they hang out. Keep it a secret. Set out some corn and then swoop in. ... Feast or famine. Just when you find one that looks interesting, they suddenly swarm on you and you've got decisions to make. Then you go through a dry spell. Don't worry - just like that, Mr. Wonderful can show up, usually when it is damned inconvenient. Every serious relationship I've ever had showed up when I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. I suspect not being needy is what drags in the bucks. Works just like corn.

Good luck.

I guess that is why you so many deer while driving in your car, but never see one when you are hunting.

I think PQ's advice is pretty good. Determine the type of person you want to be with and hang out where they hang out. Don't look for a needle in a haystack, look for it with other needles.

I still think the best way is to ask your dating or married friends for help. I met my wife through a mutual friend. Women like setting people up. I can tell you right now if one of my single friends asked me for help my wife would be on the case looking for someone for them.

If you are looking for a woman I learned a little trick (but I don't remember where). When you meet a girl (in any circumstance) only ask questions. See how long you can go without making a statement. This gives the illusion you are listening (women love that). I did this in a book store just to see how long I could do it. Here is kind of how it went.

Girl Working at Borders: Can I help you find something?

Me: Can you recommend anything from the Classic section?

Girl: Not really, I'm not into the classics.

Me: Really? What do you like to read?

Girl: Vampire novels.

Me: What interest you about vampire novels?

Girl: Some rambling answer.

Me: Do you have a favorite author?

(now walking to the vampire novels)

Girl: Anne Rice

Me: Other than being about vampires, what kind of novels are they? Love stories? Gothic? Mysteries?

Girl: Some rambling answer

Me: What are some of the other authors in the genre?

Girl: Rambling answer

Me: What are you reading now?

Girl: rambling answer

and on and on. See how it works? By the time we got done I knew everything about her and she didn't even know my name. Heck, I didn't even buy a book.