The whole starting out as friends thing, I havent touched your comments yet. You keep stating that. Isnt that what people do? Unless they whore out and sleep with them at the start.
You telling women you want to start out as friends... well, as a woman, I will just say it. It sounds like your afraid of commitment and you want benefits without the work.
Sorry, Im not telling you that you are wrong. But you may want to rethink the attitude a bit. If a guy came at me with that I would think first off He's Gay and wants to shop, or he's hiding something or like I posted above, he's afraid of commitment or "dating" in general.
These comments are not directed at you btw... so dont take them personally. This is just my opinion.

I would love for a guy to say "Hey, would you like to go on a date or two to get to know each other?"
thats what you call balls and for most of us women thats all we want... take that comment however you see fit ;)

Well those women that whore out as you call it, are there problem. If I even had female friend that within the first say few weeks of getting to know each other jump the gun and wanted to whore out, then I would think something was up. I am not afraid of commitment never have been, but for me I want to hang out with her have a date here and there adn get to know her. When out on dates iut seems like you have to sweep each other off there feet or try to be extremely impressive to them. But if she can't take me for me, who I am, and what I am then screw woman. I am who I am, what I am, and what I can do, and no woman is ever never going to change that. If they can't accept me they can go find some other faker. I am not going to put on some fake front to impress some girl to get her. And by just being friends doesn't mean I am gay, I am far from it, I just like to hang out and have fun, guess that is the wrong thing to do too. So no matter what guy does he is just SOL. Enough from me on this saga.