No wonder it feels like "everyone" here is married:

Average marriage ages:

Oklahoma:
24-26

New York:
30-34

Oregon:
26-28

Rhode Island:
28
I guess I skewed that because my only marriage was when I was 39, met plenty of women in their mid-30's who weren't married as well and not all of them were divorced with kids. They are out there but may not be as easy to find, at least one that is worthwhile. My wife was 38 and never married (albeit living in Austin) when we married.

Lived in okc all my life, would never suggest anyone move to "south Guthrie" or oki calls "Edmond". Place is a ghost town are 8 pm.

Oki, if you think ch homes are overpriced you should do a little research and see how much your developer bought your entire neighborhood 10 years ago when there was nothing but a field and then you should see which sq ft is absurd.
Would rather have a house that has character than a house that looks like the exact same all of my neighbors have. McMansions are overrated and overpriced....

Lived in okc all my life, would never suggest anyone move to "south Guthrie" or oki calls "Edmond". Place is a ghost town are 8 pm.

AKA North Edmond.

BTW, we have another OKCTalk event planned for October 3rd.

Most of those attending are pretty reserved but also friendly. It seems everyone interacts very well, especially since we have this board and it's topics in common.

Great place to meet people with similar interests:

http://www.okctalk.com/announcements-help-desk/34908-okctalk-event-thursday-oct-3rd.html

First of all I want to say thanks for all the responses in this thread. I had an elaborate response typed up at the end of last week but then got a blue screen on my computer before I submitted it and lost it :/ lol.

I was of course out of town this weekend so I didn't get a chance to make H&8th (though I really wanted to), but think I may face my fear and give the meetup option a try. Also, thanks, Pete, for posting about the new OKCTalk event. I may try to make that as well. I am really looking for friends at this point and not so much a romantic relationship. To the person who suggested the craigslist platonic section, have you ever seen it? There isn't much "platonic" about it.

Regarding downtown vs suburbs, I think living downtown would be cool but it isn't an option for me for at least another year. I know where I live isn't optimal for my age and marital status, especially here. I am hoping though I can make it work until I am able to move. When I lived in Charlotte I lived in the suburbs and made it just fine, and it wasn't in a young hotspot either. There, it seemed like there were more single twentysomethings living in the burbs than here, but it was also far more common for people in their twenties to be unemployed or underemployed and living with their parents out there than it is here (great points for OKC in that area). Here, most educated twentysomethings have good jobs and can afford to live downtown.

As far as the early marriages, I think what's the most noticeable is the social pressure to pair up and settle down young here. Out in Charlotte, a lot of people married in their early/mid twenties, but there were plenty who didn't and it didn't seem like as many questions were asked if somebody wasn't ready for marriage by age 25. Maybe that's an Edmond thing though and not as big of an issue in the core as adaniel says.

As far as the Red Coyote thing, I would love to do that, but I have to get in shape first. I am hoping by next spring...

Bchris - you seem like a.nice kid, so I will say this nicely. But you wont meet new people until you stop living.in the past and putting off life until everything is.perfect ( moiving, fitness, etc)....

You could live in Norman next to a sorority house but if you make excuses about why you can't do something then location ( or anythibg else) isnt going to.matter.

Bchris - you seem like a.nice kid, so I will say this nicely. But you wont meet new people until you stop living.in the past and putting off life until everything is.perfect ( moiving, fitness, etc)....

You could live in Norman next to a sorority house but if you make excuses about why you can't do something then location ( or anythibg else) isnt going to.matter.

That's definitely good advice. Sometimes I am bad about living in the past and putting off decisions. However, moving downtown isn't an option for at least another year. There is simply no way I can make it happen without destroying my financial security.

I'm going to re-remind you to join Urban Neighbors and bowl in their winter league. I've subbed a few times and there are definitely a lot of young people in the group. You don't have to be a good bowler, and it's less awkward to meet people when you're doing something than standing around trying to think of things to say at a bar. Membership is definitely available for non-downtown members. They've got socials too, once a month at a different downtown spot. This month it's at Urban Roots in Deep Deuce. The socials don't always pull in the younger crowd, but everyone is very friendly and you just never know where you'll meet a friend.

I know you arent into sports, but what about the gym (and it will also help you with women)?

The problem you are running into is that its hard to pick up other dudes (as friends) in a non creepy way, so your going to need to get into some re-occurring activity where a natural conversations take place and where you see the same people over and over again. At all the gyms I've been in in I've found it hard to not to get to know anybody since the same people work out about the same time each day. You ask someone for a spot or ask for advice and over the span of a month or two you will find some new drinking buddies.

I'm married, but alot of the guys at the gym are single like yourself and probably looking for a new wingman to hit the town with.

Im going to get heck for this - but if you are looking for women, go to the club and hit on a fat chick. DO NOT DO ANYTHING WITH HER (or it will kill everything), over the next few weeks casually give her a text or call on the weekends and ask where they are at (since women always travel in packs). Meet up with her and just keep on talking to her as a friend, she is bound to have atleast a few decent friends. Easiest way to meet women is through other women.

Its the same thing as the attractive woman who has a group of guys who follow her around because they want to be her 'friend'. She uses them as tools to meet better men and keeps them as rainy day insurance.

Well hell, fat chicks need love too, and they appreciate it more. No seriously! :wink:

I'm a firm believer of the YMCA. Join a class such as body pump, or aerobics. Golf courses are fun too. Do you live on the Gallardia course? Get a golf cart and some clubs and chill at the hole 19 club (they all have one) hit a few range balls, practice on the putting greens, sit at the bar and people will strike up conversation with you from the first minute. I've met a lot of people skating, but that's decidedly not for everyone.......

I don't want to bash suburbs, but I have been in the OP's shoes. Living in the suburbs as a young, single person and especially as a transplant is an incredibly isolating experience. My year living off of NW Expressway was the most mind numbing things I've ever gone through, despite having a very nice apartment. Living in midtown I can honestly say I am never bored. Who cares if you have nice appliances and lots of space for your nonexistent kids if you are miserable and lonely. I mean Kevin freakin Durant and all his millions moved out of Gallardia into Deep Deuce... that alone should tell you something.


Is there any suburban areas that have more younger, single people than others in this city or do I pretty much have to live downtown? For instance, if I lived in Norman, would I have any better luck? I am not necissarily looking to be right next door to bars and nightlife, just in an area of town where I am more likely to meet other single people like at church for instance? I want to say again I am not looking for a dating relationship at this time, just friends. Far NW OKC is extremely family oriented and I think living out here is part of the problem. Mind-numbing properly describes the experience I've had this past year. I support downtown as much as the next guy, however my family tells me they won't come and visit me if I live downtown and being close to family is one of the primary reasons I live in OKC, so it would be nice if I could find somewhere that is still suburban but more single-friendly than NW OKC.

Can anybody on here who is religious recommend churches that have active singles groups for people in their 20s, besides Crossings? I have seen PeopleChurch recommended, which I haven't tried yet but plan to soon. Any others?

You don't have to move all the way downtown, just closer in.

Why not somewhere around Penn Square? Close to everything on Western and easy to get downtown without living there.

I know lots of younger, single people that live in Putnam Heights, for example.

Your family won't visit you if you live near downtown?

Your family won't visit you if you live near downtown?

Yes. They are country people and are still living in the '80s and have the perception of downtown areas of large cities as nothing but homeless people and drug addicts. When I lived in Charlotte I wanted to take them to a restaurant downtown but they refused to go. That is another topic though.

Bchris02 - You need to live where there is an active public realm and you won't find it in suburbia because it is by default 'private'. Sadly, OKC still doesn't have many options for people to spend unstructured leisure time in the company of strangers; no plazas, urban parks, sidewalk cafes, etc...

The experience bchris had with his family re: avoiding the inner city is common. In the past, my wife and I have attended parties/social functions in Edmond. When we shared the fact we lived in the inner city, there was a common look of horrifying shock. Based upon the subsequent discussion, it's my belief many suburbanites believe spouse and I are engaged in running gun battles with gangs, drug dealers and other assorted "bad guys" each time we leave the house.

OK - Here's my BIG caveat: I've never lived in OKC as an adult.

But I did move to St. Louis, MO a dozen years ago and didn't know a soul beyond a few college acquaintances. I just can't believe that two biggish midwestern cities would be that far apart in their realities. So, here's what I did, take it or leave it:

I joined the local alumni chapter of my college, Mizzou. I don't know where you went to school, but in a city the size of OKC I guarantee you there is an alumni chapter. If there's not, your college will be thrilled to help you start one. I don't care if you went to Vermont Polytechnic, there are at least a dozen other alums in OKC. Maybe hundreds or thousands in the case of a Big 12, Big 10, or SEC school. These alumni organizations live for social events, watch parties, or if you're not into sports, lots of them do service projects. I've made countless friends through MAA.

Alzheimer's is a disease that is prevalent in my family, I called the local chapter and lo and behold, they had a "Young Friends of the Association" group that was struggling for members and publicity. They had monthly meetings, I started going to the meetings, we put on fundraisers, do publicity for the Association. Maybe you have a particular interest in cancer or heart disease, I don't know. If it's not a disease, there is some kind of charity that trips your trigger. It's universal, every single arts or health related non-profit is literally crying out for involvement by young people. Most of the arts organizations in STL have "Young Friends" groups, I just have to think it's the same in OKC. If not, start one and you'll be the hero.

I also got involved in local politics. If you have a favorite candidate or cause, they would welcome you with open arms. That's not everybody's schtick, but it worked for me when it comes to meeting people.

Also, I got involved in my industry (advertising). Again, I just have to think that there are young professional organizations related to whatever it is you do for a living.

Contrary to popular belief, you are probably not going to meet a wide group of soul mates at a bar. Church? Well, maybe, I'll leave that up to you. But I guess my point is, when you're an adult, friends don't just materialize the way they do when you're a kid. You have to decide to go out and make it happen. I think figuring out 1 or 2 or 3 of your interests and focusing your energies in that direction is the way to go. Worked for me. Again, St. Louis is bigger than OKC, but OKC isn't exactly Ponca City. Some variation of this is going to work for you, if you want it to.

The other thing about this approach is that it isn't completely geographically oriented. Although, I do think living in an area with young people, whether downtown or not will help you. I think as a young (ish) single person, I wouldn't live north of about 63rd street. But, personal preference. Good luck!

I think myself and someone else mentioned the industry organization earlier in the thread, that's a good place to start.

Is there any suburban areas that have more younger, single people than others in this city or do I pretty much have to live downtown? For instance, if I lived in Norman, would I have any better luck? I am not necissarily looking to be right next door to bars and nightlife, just in an area of town where I am more likely to meet other single people like at church for instance? I want to say again I am not looking for a dating relationship at this time, just friends. Far NW OKC is extremely family oriented and I think living out here is part of the problem. Mind-numbing properly describes the experience I've had this past year. I support downtown as much as the next guy, however my family tells me they won't come and visit me if I live downtown and being close to family is one of the primary reasons I live in OKC, so it would be nice if I could find somewhere that is still suburban but more single-friendly than NW OKC.

Can anybody on here who is religious recommend churches that have active singles groups for people in their 20s, besides Crossings? I have seen PeopleChurch recommended, which I haven't tried yet but plan to soon. Any others?


Your family won't visit you if you live downtown???? WTF? WHY???

That is insane.

You're not going to find something suburban and single friendly. And if crime is your family's concern, Downtown and Midtown are safer than most of the close-in neighborhoods are.

You need to do what is best for you. You're still young but you're old enough that you shouldn't put off experiencing what is great about being young and unattached.

I'd call your parents bluff, it's an empty threat I bet.

Frontline Church appears to have a bunch of young members.

Your family won't visit you if you live downtown???? WTF? WHY???

That is insane.

You're not going to find something suburban and single friendly. And if crime is your family's concern, Downtown and Midtown are safer than most of the close-in neighborhoods are.

You need to do what is best for you. You're still young but you're old enough that you shouldn't put off experiencing what is great about being young and unattached.

I agree with all these points.

My parents are stuck in an 80s mindset that downtown = crime and there really isn't anything I can do or show them to change that. It isn't that abnormal of a mindset for somebody who came of age during that era. Downtown Charlotte is much more revitalized than downtown OKC currently is and doesn't feel unsafe at all, but they wouldn't even set foot there.

I also agree that I am still young but the clock is ticking. I don't have as much time to waste as I did at 21 or 22. That kind of has me depressed about this entire thing and having done pretty much nothing this past year other than work. I left an awesome life and group of friends, and terrible job in Charlotte for a great job here but no life after I clock out. My lease where I live now runs out next June, but that's almost another year away.

What industry do you work in? There's got to be a professional organization you can join to meet some people.

If your parents won't visit you downtown, you can just visit them. If they won't come downtown it doesn't mean you can't see them. I have the reverse problem. My kids don't particularly like to come back to OKC to visit, so I go visit them. See if you can sublet your apartment.

If you don't particularly like sports, see if there's a kickball league in town. Those are usually co-Ed and mostly social. Take an evening class at one of the colleges or vo-tech schools in something interesting and unrelated to your career. I met my husband at one of those and made a close friend by taking another. Join everything you can find to join and go. Volunteer for everything you can find. I think ULI has a young professionals group - join that.

That is really unfortunate that your parents are like that. My own parents were quite concerned when I told them I was moving to midtown. But they trusted my judgement that I would not put my own personal safety in jeopardy. Maybe you should discuss this fact with them. After a few visits my parents actually love my area.

I am with soonerguru on this. Your life, your decisions. If they want you to live outside of where you want to live then they can pay your rent. If they are too petrified to visit you, then they can stay at a hotel off Memorial and you can meet them wherever. Just like you said, you are not getting any younger and time's a tickin. It would be a tragedy for you to limit yourself because your parents have an outdated hangup. Just my 0.02.

Also, stlokc posted a very good response and I hope you read it. Moving to downtown or nearby means that you have much better access to certain things that younger people frequent, but it will be up to you to do the heavy lifting of actually getting yourself involved.

The experience bchris had with his family re: avoiding the inner city is common. In the past, my wife and I have attended parties/social functions in Edmond. When we shared the fact we lived in the inner city, there was a common look of horrifying shock. Based upon the subsequent discussion, it's my belief many suburbanites believe spouse and I are engaged in running gun battles with gangs, drug dealers and other assorted "bad guys" each time we leave the house.

But aren't at least homeless people begging for money a big nuisance, though? I hear they're getting more aggressive and don't like taking no for an answer.

But aren't at least homeless people begging for money a big nuisance, though? I hear they're getting more aggressive and don't like taking no for an answer.

I am not in the city a lot, but when I am I haven't noticed an uptick in panhandlers being insistent. I am seeing more instances in Norman overall than I did in the past, primarily at the convenience store/bus station and the newer, larger pump number gas stations, e.g., newer 7/11s, OnCue. Not aggressive, but also not shy of going pump to pump to pump.

It's been a long time since anyone gave me any attitude for a respectful no.

No, they just make up some BS story about beating cancer and being on the streets. It's actually pretty bad walking back to your cars or place of residence in midtown. They kinda stalk you.

But aren't at least homeless people begging for money a big nuisance, though? I hear they're getting more aggressive and don't like taking no for an answer.
Give a firm "no" and keep walking. They will move on and find a more receptive target. I live, work, and recreate in the inner city and I 've never had a problem.

The difference in point of view is interesting. My son was living in Norman and I talked him into moving to Midtown. It was pretty fun/ny bumping into him as we were both walking between Auto Alley and Midtown. It's kind of like a small town. I haven't encountered panhandlers anywhere but if they're becoming a problem in Midtown let Meg Salyer know.

My parents are stuck in an 80s mindset that downtown = crime and there really isn't anything I can do or show them to change that. It isn't that abnormal of a mindset for somebody who came of age during that era. Downtown Charlotte is much more revitalized than downtown OKC currently is and doesn't feel unsafe at all, but they wouldn't even set foot there.

Honestly, in my experience, that attitude is surprisingly common among those that have lived in the metro for more than 20 years.

My wife and I are raising our family in the inner-city. I have friends who are doing the same whose parents are long-time residents of the burbs. We have been the recipients of subtle and not-so-subtle hints about our choice of neighborhood.

bchris, my lovely has a friend who alternates being in worship groups at Lifechurch NW and Lifechurch south. The NW LC is at 5821 NW Expressway which by the street number would put it a bit east of the NW Expressway and N MacArthur Blvd. intersection. Her understanding is LC appeals to a lot of younger singles. Never been there, so I can't confirm or deny.

As for your folks, I get it. Mine didn't like to come to Norman. We often met them in OKC when they came to OKC, and sometimes I wouldn't even know they were coming until they were in OKC. They'd come in for some mtg. or another, decide to not drive back to se ok, and tell us to come on up and have dinner and visit and get in some grandbaby time. I sometimes thought they had convinced themselves our Norman roads were chock full of bratty sloshed college drivers. The reality though is if we went to OKC, Pops could call it a night when he was tired and wouldn't need to drive afterwards. He wasn't really a mondo night driver anyway, so it was all good. When we could stay, he was prone to add a room to his tab, and Mama could grandbaby her heart out as late as she wanted.

Back to meeting people. You have to get out. If doing so isn't as natural as breathing, that's a tall order for you. Sports, Arts, Music, anything that puts you with others, preferably interacting and not alone in a room of 40 strangers. Been there, done that, though long, long ago now.

Honestly, in my experience, that attitude is surprisingly common among those that have lived in the metro for more than 20 years.

My wife and I are raising our family in the inner-city. I have friends who are doing the same whose parents are long-time residents of the burbs. We have been the recipients of subtle and not-so-subtle hints about our choice of neighborhood.

This is exactly right. My wife and I have lived here for 5 years, and while we live up near where bchris lives, we take advantage of everything all areas of the city has to offer. We enjoyed PremiereOKC on Friday.

Our neighbors, same age as us (early 30s), grew up in Edmond and the PC North area, and don't give a rats ass about anything south of 63rd. They've never enjoyed any of the new restaurants or bars in midtown/downtown other than McNellie's.

This is exactly right. My wife and I have lived here for 5 years, and while we live up near where bchris lives, we take advantage of everything all areas of the city has to offer. We enjoyed PremiereOKC on Friday.

Our neighbors, same age as us (early 30s), grew up in Edmond and the PC North area, and don't give a rats ass about anything south of 63rd. They've never enjoyed any of the new restaurants or bars in midtown/downtown other than McNellie's.

Reading this explains a lot about some of Oklahomans' general backwardness, insularity, and basic lack of curiosity about the world.

Thank God we at least have an alternative to that now, one that is growing and improving. Without it, our city would wither on the vine.

Cities need to be competitive, and the total suburban model is not popular with Gen Y. Again, thanks to our citizens and leaders for having the foresight to create an urban alternative.

I agree with all these points.

My parents are stuck in an 80s mindset that downtown = crime and there really isn't anything I can do or show them to change that. It isn't that abnormal of a mindset for somebody who came of age during that era. Downtown Charlotte is much more revitalized than downtown OKC currently is and doesn't feel unsafe at all, but they wouldn't even set foot there.

I also agree that I am still young but the clock is ticking. I don't have as much time to waste as I did at 21 or 22. That kind of has me depressed about this entire thing and having done pretty much nothing this past year other than work. I left an awesome life and group of friends, and terrible job in Charlotte for a great job here but no life after I clock out. My lease where I live now runs out next June, but that's almost another year away.

Is there any way to get out of your lease? If so, what would be the penalty? If you're in a corporate apartment community, does the community have a downtown location, such as Legacy? Just wondering about your options.

Is there any way to get out of your lease? If so, what would be the penalty? If you're in a corporate apartment community, does the community have a downtown location, such as Legacy? Just wondering about your options.

There is no way out of my lease. I didn't think though about transferring complexes. The closest to downtown apartment the company has is at 30th and Villa, just north of Shepherd Mall. Even that may not be possible and I am not sure whether that is a safe area or not.

There is no way out of my lease. I didn't think though about transferring complexes. The closest to downtown apartment the company has is at 30th and Villa, just north of Shepherd Mall. Even that may not be possible and I am not sure whether that is a safe area or not.

It's a decent area but there's not much more there that would improve your social outlets, IMO. I think the apartment is called Copperfield. There are probably lots of OCU students there for what it's worth.

Another idea: what if you ask your apt. manager if you can switch to month to month until they get it leased? They may actually like this option because they may be able to get a higher rent with a new tenant.

It's a decent area but there's not much more there that would improve your social outlets, IMO. I think the apartment is called Copperfield. There are probably lots of OCU students there for what it's worth.

Another idea: what if you ask your apt. manager if you can switch to month to month until they get it leased? They may actually like this option because they may be able to get a higher rent with a new tenant.

Sorry, that's not an option. I am unable to switch my lease to month to month. I asked them about that when I moved in because at the time I was considering going back to Charlotte. Moving downtown just isn't going to work for me right now. And about Copperfield, even though it's not in a walkable neighborhood, it at least is close enough to downtown and 23rd that I would have a lot easier access to things younger people will be doing vs everything being family oriented where I'm at now. But once again, moving downtown isn't an option until at lead next June.

I must have ESPN!

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Sorry, that's not an option. I am unable to switch my lease to month to month. I asked them about that when I moved in because at the time I was considering going back to Charlotte. Moving downtown just isn't going to work for me right now. And about Copperfield, even though it's not in a walkable neighborhood, it at least is close enough to downtown and 23rd that I would have a lot easier access to things younger people will be doing vs everything being family oriented where I'm at now. But once again, moving downtown isn't an option until at lead next June.

An apartment lease is not as near as ironclad as you think. There are many ways to get out of it, although none of them cheap. My suggestion would be to sublet out your unit. Make sure you read your lease to make sure this is okay (it usually is), but you may have to offer a discounted rent and pay the difference out of your pocket to entice someone. Also you would have to trust them to not tear up the place since you are technically liable. Even still its cheaper than paying the fee associated to break a lease.


Honestly, in my experience, that attitude is surprisingly common among those that have lived in the metro for more than 20 years.

My wife and I are raising our family in the inner-city. I have friends who are doing the same whose parents are long-time residents of the burbs. We have been the recipients of subtle and not-so-subtle hints about our choice of neighborhood.

Some people are such nosy busybodies who cannot handle when someone deviates even slightly compared to their dull white bread lifestyle. If they weren't talking about your decision to living in-town, then they talk bad about your career choice, clothing, hair, or whatever else is GASP different from them.


Reading this explains a lot about some of Oklahomans' general backwardness, insularity, and basic lack of curiosity about the world.

Thank God we at least have an alternative to that now, one that is growing and improving. Without it, our city would wither on the vine.

Cities need to be competitive, and the total suburban model is not popular with Gen Y. Again, thanks to our citizens and leaders for having the foresight to create an urban alternative.

I sadly agree and work with a lot of people like this. Even now, too many people in OKC have a bad habit of trenching themselves in their suburban bubble after a certain age never to be heard from again. Its not so much these people never go downtown, but they don't even go out at all. Frankly if that's their choice, so be it. But a lot of these folks don't even realize they have an option. For too long it was once you hit adulthood in OK, either move to the burbs and start popping out your 2.4 kids or move away. It is fantastic that we now have more options in the way people want to live their lives, but it's going to take a while for the entire local populace to realize it. Its getting better though.

bchris02, you've got a lot of good suggestions here, but please don't take this the wrong way...meeting new people and making new friends is like work. they don't just come to your front door.

Another thing I don't think I saw suggested was getting involved down at the boathouse. Take a rowing class or something, or join a rowing team. It's not so much sports as it is a lifestyle deal. It's all there for the taking.

Reading this explains a lot about some of Oklahomans' general backwardness, insularity, and basic lack of curiosity about the world.

Thank God we at least have an alternative to that now, one that is growing and improving. Without it, our city would wither on the vine.

Cities need to be competitive, and the total suburban model is not popular with Gen Y. Again, thanks to our citizens and leaders for having the foresight to create an urban alternative.
Those type of people exist everywhere, even in the largest of cities, for the most part they stay in their little life bubble. I knew much younger people than me who felt the same way in Austin, they thought anything on the other side of the river required a trip planned in advance. If they were North Austin people they never ventured into South Austin, most still had this vision of South Congress being like it was 20 years ago when it was the hooker and sleazy motel strip instead of what it is now. Some of these people were in architecture/interiors, people who you think would have a bit more open view of their own city. For the most part these were people who were born and raised in Austin, they never got out of town either unless it was to go drinking on the river. Many had never heard of the places that I went to ride in the Hill Country, I found that the most adventurous people in Austin were usually those who grew up some place other than Austin and moved there.

Can anybody on here who is religious recommend churches that have active singles groups for people in their 20s, besides Crossings? I have seen PeopleChurch recommended, which I haven't tried yet but plan to soon. Any others?

I cannot comment with any experience on my churches young singles program--I am 51 and in the older singles group--but have you checked out Quail Springs Baptist Church? I know I always see tons of people in your age group in between classes (there are classes both at 9:30 and 11 and a cafe area where people hang out between SS/church. The Singles Pastor is awesome and truly emphasizes relationships with others (friendships not dating). There are lots of ways to get involved, both in the Singles Dept and in the church as a whole and I will say that I have never felt uncomfortable or shuffled off in the corner here. I could talk forever about this, but will stop here ;-) Anyway, QSBC is an awesome church!

Mary

Those type of people exist everywhere, even in the largest of cities, for the most part they stay in their little life bubble. I knew much younger people than me who felt the same way in Austin, they thought anything on the other side of the river required a trip planned in advance. If they were North Austin people they never ventured into South Austin, most still had this vision of South Congress being like it was 20 years ago when it was the hooker and sleazy motel strip instead of what it is now. Some of these people were in architecture/interiors, people who you think would have a bit more open view of their own city. For the most part these were people who were born and raised in Austin, they never got out of town either unless it was to go drinking on the river. Many had never heard of the places that I went to ride in the Hill Country, I found that the most adventurous people in Austin were usually those who grew up some place other than Austin and moved there.
I found it hard to believe, but a friend of mine, who's from Altus, claims there are some people there who have never been out of the county. Your comments makes it easier to believe.

I found it hard to believe, but a friend of mine, who's from Altus, claims there are some people there who have never been out of the county. Your comments makes it easier to believe.
It wouldn't surprise me, I was born in Altus and have some family left there that hasn't moved elsewhere like the rest of us.

One co-worker in Austin was from San Angelo, his uncle in Brown County had only been out of the county once in his life, his kids took him to a Cowboys game in the 70's. He hadn't left the county since.

bchris02, you've got a lot of good suggestions here, but please don't take this the wrong way...meeting new people and making new friends is like work. they don't just come to your front door.

Yes bchris, why weren't you at the OKCTalk gathering last Thursday??

We had a really good crowd -- at least 50 and it definitely skewed younger this time, which seems to be an emerging trend. And, there were quite a few more women.

Completely free food from Iguana, free margaritas, beer, wine, and soft drinks and one of the most beautiful and unique -- and otherwise not readily accessible -- settings in all of OKC. Plus, a large group of like-minded people who for the most part didn't know a lot of people there, either. And many of them would no doubt describe themselves as somewhat introverted.

Good grief, even a certain 19 year-old met us out at Neighborhood Lounge later that night.

In other words, what better opportunity could you possibly hope for??


Sorry, but OKC in general is a pretty darn easy place to meet people. Heck, one of the posters I had never met before Thursday came along with me for most of the day on Saturday in Norman, and we had a fantastic time.


Hate to call you out but lots of people have gone out of their way to help and I'm not seeing much if any effort on your part. That's certainly your prerogative, but you can't exactly blame the community.

Yes bchris, why weren't you at the OKCTalk gathering last Thursday??

We had a really good crowd -- at least 50 and it definitely skewed younger this time, which seems to be an emerging trend. And, there were quite a few more women.

Completely free food from Iguana, free margaritas, beer, wine, and soft drinks and one of the most beautiful and unique -- and otherwise not readily accessible -- settings in all of OKC. Plus, a large group of like-minded people who for the most part didn't know a lot of people there, either. And many of them would no doubt describe themselves as somewhat introverted.

Good grief, even a certain 19 year-old met us out at Neighborhood Lounge later that night.

In other words, what better opportunity could you possibly hope for??


Sorry, but OKC in general is a pretty darn easy place to meet people. Heck, one of the posters I had never met before Thursday came along with me for most of the day on Saturday in Norman, and we had a fantastic time.


Hate to call you out but lots of people have gone out of their way to help and I'm not seeing much if any effort on your part. That's certainly your prerogative, but you can't exactly blame the community.

Exactly what I wanted to say.

Sorry, but OKC in general is a pretty darn easy place to meet people. Heck, one of the posters I had never met before Thursday came along with me for most of the day on Saturday in Norman, and we had a fantastic time.


Hate to call you out but lots of people have gone out of their way to help and I'm not seeing much if any effort on your part. That's certainly your prerogative, but you can't exactly blame the community.

I'm no Dr Phil or anything, but I detect a hint of social anxiety from him, so I have tried not to pile on in my posts. People like that are going to struggle anywhere. But yes I largely agree with this.

Pete, I am sorry I didn't make it to the OKCTalk meetup. I actually did want to go and had planned on it (even marked on my calendar) but I had to work late that day and it slipped my mind. When I got on this forum later that night and remembered it had taken place I was figuratively smacking myself. I'll do my best to make the next one whenever it is.


I'm no Dr Phil or anything, but I detect a hint of social anxiety from him, so I have tried not to pile on in my posts. People like that are going to struggle anywhere. But yes I largely agree with this.

You guessed well, I actually do have social anxiety (or maybe extreme shyness). It disappears once I know people though but when meeting new people it can be difficult. When I lived in Charlotte I had a roommate my first year there and developed my social life through him and his friends, so that made it much easier.


Agree. Chris, just come on down to Skinny's tonight. I'll start introducing you to everyone that walks in the door.

Cool man, I'll see if I can make it Thursday or Friday evening.

Chris, didn't mean to be so harsh it's just that we don't have these things very often and it was a unique opportunity because you had missed the one in August, everyone agreed that was a perfect type of thing for you to get more connected, then just by good fortune we had another one last week, and you missed that one too.

I really do wish you the best. And I would highly recommend going down to Skinny's and meeting up with Sid as he's an incredibly nice guy and that place couldn't be more laid-back and friendly.

Chris, didn't mean to be so harsh it's just that we don't have these things very often and it was a unique opportunity because you had missed the one in August, everyone agreed that was a perfect type of thing for you to get more connected, then just by good fortune we had another one last week, and you missed that one too.

I really do wish you the best. And I would highly recommend going down to Skinny's and meeting up with Sid as he's an incredibly nice guy and that place couldn't be more laid-back and friendly.

+1000 Skinny Slim's is, IMO, the best bar in all of OKC. Easiest place to meet random, fun people. You HAVE to stop by there some time.

ONLINE is the best way!!!

Yes bchris, why weren't you at the OKCTalk gathering last Thursday??

We had a really good crowd -- at least 50 and it definitely skewed younger this time, which seems to be an emerging trend. And, there were quite a few more women.

Completely free food from Iguana, free margaritas, beer, wine, and soft drinks and one of the most beautiful and unique -- and otherwise not readily accessible -- settings in all of OKC. Plus, a large group of like-minded people who for the most part didn't know a lot of people there, either. And many of them would no doubt describe themselves as somewhat introverted.

Good grief, even a certain 19 year-old met us out at Neighborhood Lounge later that night.

In other words, what better opportunity could you possibly hope for??


Sorry, but OKC in general is a pretty darn easy place to meet people. Heck, one of the posters I had never met before Thursday came along with me for most of the day on Saturday in Norman, and we had a fantastic time.


Hate to call you out but lots of people have gone out of their way to help and I'm not seeing much if any effort on your part. That's certainly your prerogative, but you can't exactly blame the community.Haha, yeah that's me!!! lol

Bchris, would've been really nice to meet you though! :)

I have been in OKC for a year now after moving from Charlotte. I love the job I have here and this was definitely an excellent career move for me. However, my social life still is pretty much limited to Skyping with friends back in Charlotte. The thing is, I am an introvert so I don't make friends as easily as a lot of people. I find myself unique in that I am a guy who doesn't like sports except for being a casual Thunder follower and am into the arts. I am also in my late 20s and not married yet and don't want to be for a few more years. I am also the kind of guy who likes to get out and do stuff. So far, my attempt to discover my niche in OKC has been very rocky.

I have tried the church scene and have tried most of the most popular churches around town i.e. Lifechurch, Victory, Crossings, etc and have found that the church scene is very family oriented and I stick out like a sore thumb being 28 now and not married (this wasn't a problem in Charlotte). I have not found anywhere with an active singles group like where I went out in Charlotte. I have done some volunteer work since I've been here but didn't form lasting relationships that way. How else is there to meet people in this city? I haven't tried Meetup.com because I had a terrible experience with it when I moved to Charlotte. Maybe its better here and need to face my fear. Nonetheless, being an introvert is a huge hurdle I have to overcome but I did it easily in Charlotte so it would make sense that I should be able to here.

Despite sometimes being overly harsh on OKC on this forum I think it's a city I could learn to love if I could find my niche. For those on this forum who relocated from elsewhere, knowing nobody here, how long did it take you to really feel at home and how did you go about it?

I think you need to get involved with causes, date women who have friends, volunteer at places, do something crazy, and resort to drinking when all else fails. Try the Parrish in Plaza if you're religious.

This thread is old, so I'm not sure how much of this info still applies. I am a 25 year old male that just moved to OKC for work. I am someone who has focused the last 6 years of my life only on work. Now I find myself in a new city with my dream job, I’m just missing a social life. Where are some places or events that I can go to where I can meet new people, especially women. Where do people my age hangout here in OKC? Any input at all is appreciated. Thank you!

This thread is old, so I'm not sure how much of this info still applies. I am a 25 year old male that just moved to OKC for work. I am someone who has focused the last 6 years of my life only on work. Now I find myself in a new city with my dream job, I’m just missing a social life. Where are some places or events that I can go to where I can meet new people, especially women. Where do people my age hangout here in OKC? Any input at all is appreciated. Thank you!

https://okc.ossosports.com/ sign on for one of these teams Kickball volleyball or what ever .. you will meet a ton of under 30 year olds men and women ..

This thread is old, so I'm not sure how much of this info still applies. I am a 25 year old male that just moved to OKC for work. I am someone who has focused the last 6 years of my life only on work. Now I find myself in a new city with my dream job, I’m just missing a social life. Where are some places or events that I can go to where I can meet new people, especially women. Where do people my age hangout here in OKC? Any input at all is appreciated. Thank you!

There is a lot of threads on the OKC subreddit that cover this information. You are young, so bars will be a great spot for you to meet anyone. I would check out Jones Assembly, they have random events and also just any Thurs-Sat night is going to be popping there with young people. They also have bingo nights that start up in the summer on their patio that are really fun.

There are tons of people at the various trivia nights.

Even though you are competing with others, I've met lots of people after the game is over. Ask how they did, if they go to other competitions, etc.

I really miss the trivia nights at Flashback but they are everywhere now. Same with Singo and other organized bar games.

Red Coyote Pack Pint night runs are another alternative that is not so alcohol-focused.

Generally the trick is going to be find something you enjoy doing or are interested in that involves groups and go do that thing. And then make an effort to connect to the other people doing the thing.